The gloves are coming off ladies, and I’d love to hear what you have to say, minus the religious-type zeal I’m expecting from most of you.

Feminism means different things to different people. For example, the term ‘Feminist’ is a joke in Saudi Arabia and Iran, ‘feminism’ is an adjective for unattractive, single women in most developed countries, and a convenient excuse for individual failure and incompetency for many women.

Let us first and foremost acknowledge that if you are a woman in an educated, civilized, non-fanatical society, AND a feminist, then you m’am are a lazy failure. I have NEVER discriminated between male and female when it comes to competency, merit and dependability… In fact, it is the very notion of feminism in 2010 that has made me realize this is actually an issue. I know dozens of women who run companies and get to top executive positions, because they are worthy of it, and up to the task. Yes, more so than the men that work with them. That is not a ‘victory’ for female-kind nor a devastating blow to ‘patriarchal systems’, it’s simply cause she does a better job. Period.

Civilized countries that do not follow barbaric, oppressive religious laws have no problem with gender equality worth mentioning. However, countries like Afghanistan, Iran, Nigeria and KSA still exist today for some reason, and there, women have the absolute right to fight for their equal rights. In cases such as that, I am the chief feminist and will dedicate all my time and effort when possible. However, I do not live in those backward-religion-infested places, and thus will begin locally before going globally.

Why Feminism Became Obsolete

Even though women have historically acquired their rights in a not-so-romantic way, the fact of the matter is that they have acquired them to the fullest, and here are some reasons why:

• Political movements to obtain the most basic of rights formerly denied to women, such as voting, property ownership and the ability to change marital status, which were largely successful in the US and the UK
• The two world wars basically forced most of the traditionally male workforce to fight away from home, creating a void women had to fill during the war itself, and after it, considering the immense death toll that mainly included working-age men
• Even after gender demographics somewhat leveled, the prospect of Globalization and the free market system requires everyone to pitch in, work, and innovate, and in return get to live a decent living. And in today’s viciously competitive market, any qualified person is most welcome, and two incomes for one family has never been more essential.
• Apart from the Great Wars, politics is a dirty business, and tapping into half the population’s votes is something no politician would hesitate doing. Promises to safeguard and progress women’s equality are the similar to today’s pro-environmental slogans so many politicians declare in vain today to lure the ever-growing eco-conscious voters
• Growing up in a school with boys and girls will definitely highlight the differences between the sexes, yet it will also teach children that they are equal in terms of gender, and that both of them can compete and excel in the same subjects. In other words, the scholarly status formerly attributed to men, has become a necessary skill for both sexes, thus rendering a man and woman equal in terms of job opportunities, college acceptances and other supposedly ‘patriarchal systems’

Issues Feminism Has Radically Transformed

• Basic rights are an obvious victory for the early feminist movements, it was completely absurd and unfair to revoke rights such as property ownership and the right to vote from any upstanding citizen
• The ongoing, vicious debate about Sexual Rights is another issue feminism has helped shape and maintain over the years. The right for women to choose whether or not to terminate a pregnancy, was, is, and will continue to be for the foreseeable future a divisive issue, with convincing arguments on both sides
• The vaguer, less-defined and justified feminist topics blur into silly excuses and often extreme paranoia, and include socio-economic and philosophical aspects

Biology

No matter how strong the argument, how fierce the conviction, and how determined the fight, men and women are not the same, they are not equal and they never wil be. In fact, if I were a female feminist, I would consider it an insult to be called, the ‘opposite sex’, ‘inferior sex’ or ‘better sex’ since the main issue is comparing the female gender while taking the male as the gold standard. We’re simply not the same sexually and that needs to be understood in any debate or aspect.

Hegelian Dialectics

My civilization professor explained a very boring philosopher’s ramblings. That philosopher was Hegel, and he believed that all relationships have a master-slave nature, which can either alternate or be set in stone. This was somewhat a farfetched proclamation, but one I quickly took grasp of when give the example. Feminism is a perfect example of this master-slave relationship, for the objective of feminism s to gain recognition from the male gender. This objective puts the male in the master seat, and the female in the slave seeking approval seat. Please understand that master and salve are allegorical, and I do not mean actual domination and submission. In other words, as it is today, feminism is counterintuitive and is in fact reinforcing the patriarchal system instead of tearing it down.

Feminist Hypocrisy and the Reversal of Roles

Often times, the oppressed minority’s suffering is turned into favoritism for that particular minority. This is evident in racial matters in the US today. The sensitive issue of slavery and blacks’ segregation has metamorphosed into a black-favoring mentality, where to avoid being ‘racist’, one will submit to or concede certain rights to appease racial concerns. In other words, past discrimination against black people has forced US society to indirectly treat them more favorably than white people for example. A similar phenomenon has occurred in the case of women.

Today, if a man is chosen over a woman, the boss is sexist and anti-feminist. If a woman is chosen over a man, the boss is pro-choice and a champion of feminism. This particular issue disgusts me. A man can be better than a woman at a job, and the opposite is equally true. When I see the typical feminist reaction to such a decision, I weep for human intellect and integrity.

In a recent incident I remember, a tweep of mine who I will keep anonymous, was ecstatic that a woman was working in a forensics lab. I found this sad for two reasons: 1- the fact that she considers this such a big deal for women, and 2- the fact that the gender of that forensic scientist was what impressed her. If I were a woman, I would consider that demeaning, and would rather acknowledge that this individual demonstrated certain capacities and skills that allowed her to be chosen over others for that particular job.

The feminist excuse goes both ways though, and naive men will blame feminism for their failure, and not their own incompetencies for their misfortunes. Those cases are rare though, and I have not encountered them in my 2 decades.

My Proposition

I am a fierce advocate of accountability. I believe everyone should be held accountable to what they do or say. In order for accountability to be valid, all circumstances need to be equal amongst the individuals and groups under scrutiny. In other words, you mess up, you pay for it – you do good, you get paid for it. In a gender-unequal society, it is very easy to hide under the title of sexism and blame the unequal rights on the failure of woman to act and impact. So, in my opinion, women and men should not only be guaranteed equal rights, but equal rights need to be forced upon them, so when a woman messes up, we can safely say it’s cause she’s stupid, incompetent, unstable or otherwise, not because men didn’t allow her to blossom to her full potential. When I say woman, I mean a particular individual, and not the whole sex.

This philosophy works both ways too, for it’s not only failures that will be attributed to the individual, but also victories. So, this woman got this job because she’s good, not cause she’s a wiman and her boss is pro-feminist.

Paranoid Fears

I find it extremely annoying when feminists over-analyze a certain story, image or video, and turn it into a controversial fight to the death between the sexes. Petty things that are not worth considering are bloated into shiny pro-feminist slogans and masculin resentment. Below are a few examples, which I hope my tweeps will forgive me for

• The latest issue I found peculiar was on http://www.ivysblog.com, where Ivy expressed deep resentment to the popular ’3a2belik’ phrase, which is basically wishing the person gets to do whatever the occasion is soon. In Ivy’s case, it was a wedding. I get the ’3a2belak’ neutral word 7 million times each week for some kind of family function, I NEVER thought much of it, and contrary to what was said, I doubt much thought is put into it by the person saying it (at least not much thought is put into gender, gender status and inequality)
• Another one was the outrage some friends had over the new Exotica ads, where the women are jumping in the air to catch the ceremonial bouquet. The one the bride throws to the group of bachelorettes that is supposed to forecast which of them will get married next. Apart from the complete stupidity of the concept itself, the fact it bothered some feminists is alarming. It is a stupid tradition, which is good material for an ad which is funny and symbolic of the advertiser: a flower shop. Apart from that, getting married and having a husband and kids is not evil or anti-feminist. The phobic reaction to anything marriage-related is sad and indicative that there is more to feminism than gender-equality and that juvenile rebelliousness, or general discontent with one’s personal life drives this battle against the mainstream society and its norms.
• Since we brought up the Exotica ads, I didn’t see any masculinism (not sure if this word exists, my spell-checker doesn’t think so, damn, how sexist of it, let’s start a riot guys) outrage when a female driver was put into the driver’s seat of the ‘balconies campaign’. The positioning was deliberate, and I welcomed it instead of insisting it is a female conspiracy to bring the male gender down.

Less Tangible Discrepancies and Food for Thought

• Women do not fight wars (in direct combat roles)
• Men can never get a free drink from a bartender for flirting with him (unless the bartender is gay)
• Male cleavage will never get us out of a tight spot (again, unless the person who out you in the tight spot is gay)
• Women have the priority of boarding lifeboats over men (Titanic, remember?)

Do you see male groups going raving mad over these issues? I don’t, so shush. It is an acceptance of the difference in roles and in natures of both sexes, and denying it, like feminism does, is plain silly.

I love you all! Please take this as it is, and don’t twist it into something it’s not, I’m pro-feminist on many issues and you might consider this as candid, constructive criticism.