Funerals are the epitome of events in someone’s life. It signifies the end of it, the culmination of all the years, of all the memories, of all the accomplishments and of all your family and friends hold dear. Yet, no one ever has a say in their memorial services. What to be done with the body, how the services should take place and other hard details grieving loved ones shouldn’t have to make could be done beforehand by the person concerned, and here’s what I’m hoping will happen.
I hope this post won’t come in handy soon, but you never know, do you?
- NO REFERENCES TO GOD/ANGELS/HEAVEN
The last thing I want is people saying “we gained an angel” or “god wanted him” or other things I find immensely insulting. Funerals should be memorial services and I want folks to remember my life, not make themselves feel better and undermine my real life and their memories of it, for generic phrases they’ve been taught by their priests and mothers. So, thank you for not saying those things, and instead, maybe remembering something fun we did together, you know, reminiscing!
- DONATIONS TO CHARITY
No paying churches or funeral houses or anything similar. Money you were gonna spend on flowers or priests’ wages should go to charities and universities. Of course, I’d prefer you choose charities that do not discriminate and are secular, but the choice is yours of course and thank you for putting it in my memory!
- ORGAN DONATION
If the method and state I’m in during my death allows it, I’d like to donate everything that could be used from my body. Why let them rot and become worm food when they could improve or even save someone else’s life? Everyone should donate their organs upon death IMO.
I don’t wanna take up precious real estate and let my decaying remains poison underground water sources. That’s why whatever is left of me will be cremated and the ashes split and used as, first, fertilizer for an olive tree (which I hope my family will take care of and keep) which will sorta be like reincarnation! Those atoms that once were me, can now be part of that very fruitful tree… How awesomely poetic and spiritual is that?! (Oh, and a small part of the ashes will be dedicated to some of my friends whom I believe will use to fertilize another type of “plant” ^^)
- GIFTS FOR EVERYONE
I’m not sure what they are, but they’ll be happy stuff you’ll find useful. No icons or candles or rosaries, maybe phone covers, earphones, Swiss chocolate or something else that’ll make you happy or be useful for your everyday lives
Not a religious place, but a happy place. I’d like it to be easily accessible to everyone and not too far away. I would love to have it in the mountains overlooking Ehden, but I guess that would need a lot of off-roading! Perhaps BIEL?
Some Chopin, and of course, deadmau5 or Daft Punk or Justice, depending on whoever is still alive or would agree to performing live or at least recording a special set pour moi! Also, a donation box or small fee could be collected to see these awesome folks live, and the money will all go to scientific research foundations across the world.
Please understand these are my personal thoughts and opinions. No offense was meant here to anyone, and I respect how other people believe they should take care of their dead. However, I also believe everyone should have a choice of what happens to them after they die, just like you can write a will deciding what will happen to the things you owned after you’re gone.